Recently, Lisa Bevere shared the top 5 pieces of marriage advice she would have given her younger self to better her marriage.
Pieces Of Marriage Advice Part I
1. Love fearlessly
In the early years of their marriage, Lisa admitted that she didn’t give the full portion of her love to her husband. She was nice and good to him, but she knew she held back some of her love because of what she witnessed in her parent’s marriage.
“There’s one thing I regret: I wish I would have loved my husband more fearlessly early on and I wish I wouldn’t have held back. I came from a very broken family. My parents were divorced not once but twice. And so I didn’t know what family looked like. I had never seen it modeled, and so in the back of my mind I always thought all men will one day leave, all men will one day disappoint. Don’t give all of your heart because if you give all of your heart and they leave, you’ll have nothing left. Your life will be empty, it’ll be devastated, it’ll be utterly broken,” she said.
But her husband brought it up and told her that they would miss a lot of good things in their marriage if she held back.
Pieces Of Marriage Advice Part II
2. Forgive Quickly
Lisa has learned that the longer it takes to resolve something the more reasons she has for not resolving. If it’s growing in your mind, it gets bigger. She also said that it doesn’t mean they would have it all figured out and that doesn’t mean they’d have it all resolved. It just means you’ve taken the first step.
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3. Laugh a Lot
“Life is utterly ridiculous,” she said. “You need to have joy in your life, you need to learn to laugh a lot.”
She then explained that when we honor God, God creates community, love, and laughter in our lives.
“He said, ‘Because you wouldn’t serve me with joy and gladness, he said you’re going to serve your enemies in fear.’”
God wants laughter in marriages, so develop an atmosphere of laughing with each other, not laughing at each other.
Pieces Of Marriage Advice Part III
4. Honor One Another
“Honor one another when you’re together but almost even more importantly honor one another when you are not together,” Lisa said.
She admitted that she regretted having told way too many people about the struggles they had. It was when she wasn’t going to the right people who could help them. You’re honoring your relationship if you’re going to somebody that you can build with. She then added to protect your marriage with what you say and honor your marriage by going to people who can help you.
5. Fight For Your Relationship
Your relationship is more important than trying to prove you are right.
Watch the full video below:
Reference: Lisa Bevere
Header image: Lisa Bevere [Lisa Bevere]. YouTube, 4 January 2024, https://youtu.be/m7BKDvbPfb8
