Life Church’s Pastor Craig Groeschel shared a powerful sermon about “5 signs you’re dating the wrong person.” In this message, he delves into hard truths about dating and marriage.
In one of his sermons, Pastor Craig Roeschel talked about Proverbs 27:12 (GNT): “Sensible people will see trouble coming and avoid it, but an unthinking person will walk right into it and regret it later.”
Based on this passage, the pastor shared five signs to look out for when dating someone.
5 Signs You’re Dating The Wrong Person Part I
1. When they’re not consistently pursuing Jesus
If someone you are getting to know isn’t consistently pursuing Jesus, it could be a warning sign.
“And if you meet someone and you’re getting to know them and you spend some time in intimate conversation with them. If you don’t hear about Jesus, or you don’t hear about their faith, or you don’t hear about God. Or you don’t hear about their involvement in the church, or you don’t hear about their ministry within the first hour of talking to them, I would suggest to you that is actually a red flag,” the pastor said. “And that seems incredibly extreme and it is extreme. But you have to remember that people talk about first what they value most.”
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2. When those you love don’t approve of the person you’re dating
When you have a strong and spiritually grounded community around you, and they disapprove of the person you’re dating, it could be a significant red flag.
Pastor Craig put it this way: “[Listen] to those around you that you really trust who have a good spiritual foundation and have your best interest at heart. When they don’t like the person you’re with and all of them don’t like the person you’re with, listen. Proverbs 27:9 (NLT) says this, “The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as sweet as perfume and incense.”
5 Signs You’re Dating The Wrong Person Part II
3. When you don’t experience healthy conflict.
Pastor Craig emphasized the importance of healthy conflict in a relationship.
“It’s not if you fight, but it’s how you fight that really, really matters,” he said. “Because healthy couples tend to fight fair, unhealthy couples fight dirty. We could say that healthy couples fight for resolution, ‘we want things to work out.’ And unhealthy couples fight for victory. ‘I wanna win, I wanna be right and you’re wrong.’”
4. When you find it difficult to trust the person you are with.
For the fourth sign, Pastor Craig quoted the popular verse about love: 1 Corinthians 13:4-8.
“And I wanna unpack this a little bit, because in some cases the reason you can’t trust them is because they’re actually untrustworthy,” he said. “Meaning you say, ‘I can’t trust them as far as you can throw them.’ Maybe he’s always sliding up into girls’ DMs, or she’s always Snapping old boyfriends. Or he’s liking every bikini pick of everybody that’s not you all the way in there. Or he’s looking at the waitresses whenever he goes to a place and there may be a reason.”
5. When the person you are dating is leading you away from Jesus instead of closer to Jesus.
Watch the full sermon here:
Reference: Life.Church
Header image: Craig Roeschel [Life.Church]. YouTube, 13 November 2022, https://youtu.be/cujLUt-BLxM